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My daughter Violet is 4 she was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. I knew there was something wrong I admitted it 2 years ago, it has taken me all this time and changing to a doctor who would listen to me for me to get her tested. Now I am faced with what do I do? She tantrums and hurts others when she doesn't get her own way. I need to know how to correct negative behavior, time out and talking do not work, neither does redirecting. They said it could be a while before I get approved for any therapy....I have medicaid and no insurance and I have to wait for their approval before I can do anything. Then I have to find the time I work at home from 6 in the morning until 6 at night and I am school full time....what do I do? I want to help her I know she get frustrated and does not know what to do with herself...how do I help her. My friends all think she's just a spoiled brat and tell me I need to be firmer with her...they don't understand that being firmer with her doesn't work she does not respond to negative anything. It makes her angry or sad when you are negative with her. Does anyone have any advice.
Kimberly Lounder
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Joined: 2/4/2010
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It sounds like you are going through a tough time. I think the first step is to try to figure out the main issues she is having and how that is impairing her ability to do "normal" things. I put normal in quotes, because I really think that is up to you to determine. I know you mentioned tantrums and it sounds like you are very busy, leaving little time for anything. I would try to start simple and not crowd your calendar, while you are waiting for therapy to begin. Have you tried journaling? Write down when your daughter has a tantrum and what events that happened before which may have precipitated the event. It may help to give you a foundation to build upon. Remember, adapting to situations and coming up with solutions takes time.
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Joined: 2/4/2010
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Thank you so much that sounds like a good idea. I do have a lot on my plate and I know that it's just as hard for her to deal with my schedule as it is for me. I agree with you about normal who are we to judge what is normal. I will try the journaling and see where that takes us. It's just nice to know that there are others out there dealing with some of the same things as me. It makes it so I don't feel so alone and overwhelmed. Thank you
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